On Dating Couples
December 2, 2016
Deciding to date a couple is a unique commitment and has unique risks, but also and unique benefits. … More On Dating Couples
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On Couples
December 2, 2016
Recently I met this couple at a party (not Will and Jada), and we confessed we were all attracted to each other. B and I started chatting on Facebook, multiple paragraph/multiple topic things. Each time I receive a message, I’m surprised by the length, delighted by the detail, and touched by the time she took … More On Couples
Learning to love my belly
November 14, 2016
I have a confession. At the weight I’m currently at, belly fat sits on my bladder, and it easily gets inflamed. This started happening when I was twenty-four, after my first adult weight gain, and I went to a urologist who diagnosed me with something like stressed bladder syndrome. Particularly, when I overeat or under-sleep, … More Learning to love my belly
A divided person
November 11, 2016
I’m grateful to have grown up in a small factory town in Indiana, where everyone shopped at the same grocery store, went to the same school, and called each other’s parents by their first names. What seemed to set us apart from the larger towns and cities around us were the lack of funds and … More A divided person
What does it mean to be polyamorous?
October 13, 2016
I felt comfortable with the label once I revamped what it meant for me to be romantically committed to someone else. I no longer committed to dates every week with anyone. And I realized expectations of time, energy, and commitment are simply matters of compatibility. … More What does it mean to be polyamorous?
What does it actually mean to be non-monogamous?
September 29, 2016
Several people have reached out to me lately wondering if non-monogamy is right for them. In order to help them figure that out, I’m going to do a series of posts on my general thoughts on the topic, starting with what it means to be non-monogamous. When I started thinking through this, I figured I … More What does it actually mean to be non-monogamous?
Why non-monogamy, even if it’s more difficult, is worthwhile (for me)
September 9, 2016
I’m committed to non-monogamy because, once again, I like who I’ve become because of it. I am not, however, claiming that being non-monogamous OR queer, kinky, or even a Christian has completely healed the cracks in my self-worth, my body image, etc. … More Why non-monogamy, even if it’s more difficult, is worthwhile (for me)
My Story – Part Five: Coming Out Poly, Queer and Kinky
August 11, 2016
Throughout the summer, I’ll be posting how I learned to be the most authentic version of me while holding onto my Christian faith. Six posts: how I came out as queer, polyamorous, and kinky. I started with Part One: Coming Out Queer. I suggest you read that first. When I embraced my sexual side: with … More My Story – Part Five: Coming Out Poly, Queer and Kinky
Why Sex, Gender, and Sexuality Matter
July 29, 2016
Figuring out how to love who I want to love and how I want to love them, while maintaining my relationship with God has been extremely important to my growth as a person, but I also recognize that my story is built on privilege. … More Why Sex, Gender, and Sexuality Matter
On the Beauty of Imperfect Attempts
June 21, 2016
I have the pleasure of being part of Rumpus’s Writing While Deviant series. Here’s the first part of my essay, On the Beauty of Imperfect Attempts. … More On the Beauty of Imperfect Attempts
Church of the Scarlet Letter 