In the last post, I explained how lonely and afraid I felt in grad school. Afraid I wasn’t worthy of a satisfying relationship and afraid I wasn’t going to be able to take care of myself after graduating. I binge dated as a way to ease the loneliness and find someone to believe in me. … More Coming Out a Buddhist Christian
Through most of my life I’ve been plagued by loneliness. Few memories of college and my mid-twenties are as vivid for me as lying in bed alone. The physical empty space around my body, the heavy silence, and the internal dread I felt, night after night, wondering how many years might go by before someone … More What Buddhism Taught Me About Loneliness
“If you accept the fluidity of sexual orientation and gender as part of your definition of the sexual human person, then it logically leads us to shift from an act-centered sexual morality to a virtue-centered sexual morality.” … More Virtue, Sexual Ethics, and the Catholic Church
Next week, I’m speaking at the 2018 Christian Feminism Today Gathering about pleasure and virtue. Here are my thoughts/notes for the workshop. You can also check out my notes for my CatalystCon Midwest presentation about a progressive approach to Christian sexual ethics. What is Virtue? Definitions of virtue: Behavior showing high moral standards (Oxford) Conformity … More Can Pleasure be a Virtue?
What would it look like to affirm that vulnerability is, by definition, not safe?
What would it look like to consider all vulnerability as edge play?
This is what it would mean to me. … More Vulnerability as Edge Play
Back in January, a fellow Christian blogger, Chuck McKnight, wrote a post considering whether Jesus could have been intersex. The gist of the argument is that if Jesus were conceived from a virgin woman, he would’ve developed with only XX chromosomes. As McKnight wrote, “When virgin births occur in nature, they usually result in a … More The Power of an Intersex Christ
How a new ethic of justice-love can align with the sexuality of the queer and leather communities and others. … More Mystic Soul and Tom of Finland