During sex, with my eyes closed, I trust the feel of their body, the sound of their breath, their moans, the feel of their heat against my skin, the pressure of our mouths pressed together. But our eyes meeting, for whatever reason, feels like asking everything at once:
Do you accept all of me? The girl with the messed up hair and the face that gets too red? The scared girl? The girl full of needs? The girl that likes you and imagines future dates? The girl who wants you to feel cared for? The girl who wants to feel cared for in return? … More On Keeping my Eyes Open
D was asking me how to understand this woman, and what I was thinking was much broader and somewhat bleak: I don’t think we’re ever going to understand and respect everyone else. I don’t think we’re ever going to get rid of all our biases. I’m not saying we shouldn’t try. I’m saying that our respect for each other shouldn’t be based on understanding each other. … More Embracing the “other” without understanding them
I recently wrote a guest post for The Honey Quill blog about my new tattoo. Here is the start: “Long before I was sexually active, I was drawn to the Biblical stories of outcasted women—the woman at the well, the woman who anointed Jesus’s feet with perfume, the woman for whom Jesus drew a line … More Sex, Love and Acceptance: Defining myself as a Scarlet Christian
I decided to do this 40 days in the wilderness challenge during a time of financial desperation. I wanted to trust that the idea was inspired and, because of this, if I managed to sort through my theological questions and doubts for forty days, that I’d be more spiritually grounded and perhaps also better of financially. … More Which Wilderness? Money, Sex, and God
If we are supposed to trust in the mystery of God, how should we then pray? … More Panentheism
Playful does not have to be insincere. For me, sexual play has become a way of questioning, processing, and healing my wounds around my queerness. … More On Hooking Up — My Queer Version
Casual sex can numb a person to the immense powerful potential sex has to offer. But it can also tap into that power. … More Should Christians Hook Up?
Anna Redsand is a white woman who was raised by evangelical missionary parents in the Navajo Nation. She is the author of a spiritual journey memoir, To Drink from the Silver Cup: From Faith Through Exile and Beyond (Terra Nova, 2016). A theme throughout the memoir is Redsand accepting her attraction to women and the ramifications … More Interview with Anna Redsand
Peeps! I am so excited to announce my new project: a biweekly sex and relationship advice column called Just the Tip for Rebellious Magazine! Check out my first column. And please submit me questions! Email email@example.com.
When I say I’m single, it feels like I’m erasing so many people who are important to me. … More When I say I’m single (and polyamorous)