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When I say I’m single (and polyamorous)

February 13, 2017

When I say I’m single, it feels like I’m erasing so many people who are important to me. … More When I say I’m single (and polyamorous)

On Dating Couples

December 2, 2016

Deciding to date a couple is a unique commitment and has unique risks, but also and unique benefits. … More On Dating Couples

Recently I met this couple at a party (not Will and Jada), and we confessed we were all attracted to each other. B and I started chatting on Facebook, multiple paragraph/multiple topic things. Each time I receive a message, I’m surprised by the length, delighted by the detail, and touched by the time she took … More On Couples

What does it mean to be polyamorous?

October 13, 2016

I felt comfortable with the label once I revamped what it meant for me to be romantically committed to someone else. I no longer committed to dates every week with anyone. And I realized expectations of time, energy, and commitment are simply matters of compatibility. … More What does it mean to be polyamorous?

What does it actually mean to be non-monogamous?

September 29, 2016

Several people have reached out to me lately wondering if non-monogamy is right for them. In order to help them figure that out, I’m going to do a series of posts on my general thoughts on the topic, starting with what it means to be non-monogamous. When I started thinking through this, I figured I … More What does it actually mean to be non-monogamous?

Why non-monogamy, even if it’s more difficult, is worthwhile (for me)

September 9, 2016

I’m committed to non-monogamy because, once again, I like who I’ve become because of it. I am not, however, claiming that being non-monogamous OR queer, kinky, or even a Christian has completely healed the cracks in my self-worth, my body image, etc. … More Why non-monogamy, even if it’s more difficult, is worthwhile (for me)

My Story – Part Four: Coming Out Poly, Queer and Kinky

July 17, 2016

Throughout the summer, I’ll be posting how I learned to be the most authentic version of me while holding onto my Christian faith. Six posts: how I came out as queer, polyamorous, and kinky. I started with Part One: Coming Out Queer. I suggest you read that first. I met David shortly before my 27th birthday. … More My Story – Part Four: Coming Out Poly, Queer and Kinky

My Story – Part Three: Coming Out Poly

July 5, 2016

In order for me to be ready for something as “alternative” as polyamory, I had to shed the notion that God created all people to live the same story. And when I met a woman who introduced me to the idea of polyamory, all of a sudden there were new options in my mind about what could make me happy. … More My Story – Part Three: Coming Out Poly