“If you accept the fluidity of sexual orientation and gender as part of your definition of the sexual human person, then it logically leads us to shift from an act-centered sexual morality to a virtue-centered sexual morality.” … More Virtue, Sexual Ethics, and the Catholic Church
Next week, I’m speaking at the 2018 Christian Feminism Today Gathering about pleasure and virtue. Here are my thoughts/notes for the workshop. You can also check out my notes for my CatalystCon Midwest presentation about a progressive approach to Christian sexual ethics. What is Virtue? Definitions of virtue: Behavior showing high moral standards (Oxford) Conformity … More Can Pleasure be a Virtue?
How a new ethic of justice-love can align with the sexuality of the queer and leather communities and others. … More Mystic Soul and Tom of Finland
Neither faith nor relationships work without a struggle, so why should our most intimate act of connection be forced to be gentle? … More Christian Case for Rough Sex
During sex, with my eyes closed, I trust the feel of their body, the sound of their breath, their moans, the feel of their heat against my skin, the pressure of our mouths pressed together. But our eyes meeting, for whatever reason, feels like asking everything at once:
Do you accept all of me? The girl with the messed up hair and the face that gets too red? The scared girl? The girl full of needs? The girl that likes you and imagines future dates? The girl who wants you to feel cared for? The girl who wants to feel cared for in return? … More On Keeping my Eyes Open
Playful does not have to be insincere. For me, sexual play has become a way of questioning, processing, and healing my wounds around my queerness. … More On Hooking Up — My Queer Version
Casual sex can numb a person to the immense powerful potential sex has to offer. But it can also tap into that power. … More Should Christians Hook Up?